Common Mistakes That You Must Not Make While Choosing a Life Partner

Common Mistakes that you must not make while choosing a life partner

 

1. Self-acclaimed born again or over righteousness

 

the first and the most important marital  mistakes I have discovered that robbed spouse seekers; self acclaimed born again of their dream and life partners, is over righteousness. when a man or a woman sees himself too righteous to an extent that courtship is being considered a sin, then he or she is doing himself more harm than good. any man/woman who is ripe for marriage and intends to get a life partner should always bear in mind that courtship is the stepping stone. any marriage without courtship is like a building without foundation.

   Courtship is not a sin as far as sex isn't involved. So, rather than being over righteous one should have courtship that has basis on Biblical values.(Hebrew 13:4a).

 

2. Wrong use of engagement ring

 

another reason why some singles who are in dire need of life partners are frustrated, is attributed to the use of engagement  rings. its so wrong for a spinster who has not been married to wear an engagement ring. some claim they wear it for fun and fashion not considering the adverse effect it would cause in future. there is no disaster in life than pretending to be what you are not. Therefore, any man or woman who genuinely wishes to get married should stop living in a fools paradise. the earlier they realize this the better for them

 

3. Having too many advisers or wrong counselors

 

Its one thing to have personal adviser and the other to be careful of the  kind of advise you receive  from them. Sometimes take out time to assess these people, whether they have been of blessing to you or not; after which you make a right decision.

 

 

4. Playing hard to get

 

playing hard to get has  robbed so many of their life partners. there's a saying ' its easier to wake up a genuine sleeper than a pretender'. I understand that this funny attitude is associated with 'I don't want to appear cheap before him/her or let me give him/her tough time so that once I succumb, he/she would not take me for granted'. Single in these categories may be right but its doesn't always work that way, the person might run out of patience thinking you will never be interested with him/her so let me go have peace of mind.

  its not how tough you are that guarantees or secure your fiancées/fiancé love for you, but how you conduct yourself  will determine your position in his life. therefore, 'playing hard to get lifestyle' must be prosecuted and jailed because tomorrow may be too late.

 

5. Consultation

 

an average spouse seeker in a contemporary world, consults different categories of people just to get a clue of his or  future spouse, this is wrong. some also consult evil spirits or ghost. this is so absurd. research and experience have shown that the more consultation an average spouse make he more confused they get.

this is possible because every pastor has his or  her own source of power, likewise herbalists. so if you consult ten men of God or alternatively ten herbalist, you will in non doubt likely to have ten different results. please be very careful and discern.

 

  6. I'm too young syndrome

 

 an average youth these days is not ready for marriage even when marital doors  strikes  open for him or her. and most of them always say' I know I will get married so why the rush, I'm too young and busy. and should I take up a little of a "grapevine" thing like marriage? I can do that wen I get a little older, please let me enjoy somewhat of life, and then I will have more time to think about marriage. assuming you belong to a school of thought, are you sure you will be fresher or your spouse will still be available for you  when you are ready? there is time for everything, time up yourself and get the best of today because there will never be another today.

 

7&8.Cooking and Poor or Lack of Body Maintenance

 

Many average maiden had failed the sincere test and lost her home .Ask any sincere man who intents to get married and he would tell you that the first and simplest test he would expect from his fiancée  is to pass in flying colors, is cooking. in Africa today, any lady who cannot cook is bound to jump from one marital home to another.

although beauty is the gift of nature but one has to take proper care of the body before it attracts someone else. and it distracts intended spouse seeker.

 

7.Mood

 

this is another common mistakes that have driven away intended spouses or suitors show me a spouse who cannot control his anger and I will show you a home breaker. pone mood play vital  role in any relationship, believe it or not. therefore always be in a happy mood, apart from getting married, it pays to be happy.